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Episode 81:

“Just” Vet Med Burnout? The Neurodivergent Signs I Missed for Decades (Part 1)

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You know those days in vet med when every little thing seems to drive you crazy, and by the end of the day, you're completely exhausted?

You're not alone.

I'm sharing the everyday frustrations I (and many others) experienced that I later discovered were connected to my ADHD and autism and played a role in my burnout.

For over 40 years, I had no idea these seemingly normal struggles could be signs of neurodivergence.

From constant interruptions, last-minute schedule changes, mental overload, and the pressure to keep everything running smoothly.

Whether you've been diagnosed, never considered that you might be neurodivergent, or simply recognize yourself in these struggles, this episode will help you understand why certain parts of vet med can feel so exhausting and how to start working with your brain instead of against it.


What You'll Learn In This Episode:

  • [02:00] How undiagnosed neurodivergence can contribute to veterinary burnout

  • [04:00] My journey to discovering ADHD and autism at 42

  • [13:00] How perimenopause can intensify ADHD symptoms

  • [19:00] Why ADHD, stress, and executive functioning can make daily tasks harder

  • [23:00] Why interruptions can derail your entire day

  • [28:00] How constant task switching drains your mental energy & what to do instead

  • [31:00] Why unclear questions can create unnecessary overwhelm & how to prevent it

  • [38:00] Why last-minute schedule changes can trigger intense frustration & what to do when faced with it

  • [42:00] How perfectionism and unfinished tasks add to your mental load & how to let go

 


Key Takeaways:

  • [02:00] Being high-functioning doesn't mean you're not struggling. You can appear successful and capable while using enormous amounts of mental energy just to get through the day

  • [11:00] What you've always considered normal might not be normal for everyone. Recognizing patterns you've overlooked for years can change how you understand your stress and burnout

  • [23:00] Pushing harder isn't always the answer. Just because you've always managed to get everything done doesn't mean the way you're doing it is sustainable

  • [27:00] Small workplace changes can make a big difference. Setting boundaries around interruptions, improving communication, and creating predictable workflows can reduce unnecessary stress

  • [45:00] You don't need a diagnosis to start making changes. Understanding your own patterns and what helps your brain function best is valuable whether you're neurodivergent or not.

 


A Truth You Need to Hear:

“Just because you can handle it doesn't mean it's sustainable.”

 


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S2 Episode 81 Transcript:

“Just” Vet Med Burnout? The Neurodivergent Signs I Missed for Decades (Part 1)

 

[00:00] When Everyday Vet Med Stress Might Be Neurodivergence

This might be a typical day in vet med for you. Constant questions and interruptions when you're trying to finish maybe a record or just trying to finish a thought, while also simultaneously there's a dog that won't stop barking, the phone's ringing, the lights are too damn bright, and now you have a headache.

Then someone changes something on the schedule at the last minute, and it pisses you off way more than it probably should. For years, I thought these were just things about vet med that just drove me crazy, but turns out I spent over four decades not knowing I was neurodivergent, both ADHD and autistic, and that it can make some of these everyday parts of vet med a hell of a lot harder, and also why some people don't seem to be affected while other seemingly innocent things can really trigger us and push us over the edge. And before you think I'm not neurodivergent," I didn't know I was either until last year. So in this episode, I'm sharing the everyday scenarios that drove me crazy, how they played a role in burnout, and what I would do differently now. So whether you're diagnosed, undiagnosed, neurodivergent or not, or just not sure, if your brain struggles with these scenarios, let me show you a way to make it easier.

All right, let's get into it.

 


[01:00] Welcome to Stop the Burnout Podcast

Welcome to Stop the Burnout, a podcast for veterinary professionals who love medicine but are exhausted by the people pressure, expectations, and the constant mental load that comes with it. If you've ever thought, "I shouldn't feel this drained doing something I care about," you're not alone, and you're definitely not broken.

I'm Dr. Amber Parks, a veterinarian turned stress and burnout coach, and here we talk about the stuff that no one taught us, like how to actually break the stress and burnout patterns once and for all, and how to stay in this profession without losing yourself. You won't find bubble bath, toxic positivity, or self-care fluff pretending to be the solution here.

Let's get into it. All right. Welcome back to another episode of Stop the Burnout. So as you heard in the intro, we are talking about scenarios that are neurodivergent, and I-- or let me just say this, they're neurodivergent in flavor, if you will, and I'll explain that, um, that I experienced for years in practice. Didn't know it.

 


[02:00] How Undiagnosed Neurodivergence Contributes to Burnout

I definitely think it contributed to my burnout. Not to say that if you're neurodivergent you're going to burn out, but the huge piece I hope you take away from this is that if you recognize this in and of yourself, you can, first of all, give yourself permission to not continually push ourselves until we can't do any more, because we tend to be really good at that.

But also, you know, if anyone is listening to this and you're like, "Holy shit," maybe, having awareness around it is super helpful, but also maybe getting diagnosed. I will say getting diagnosed, and I'll, I'll share a little bit of my story on that too, it doesn't... Not everyone, I think, has to.

In other words, I wanted to do it because I wanted that probably a little bit of the confirmation of like, like what I felt was truly what it was. But it doesn't necessarily change anything. Not truly. It is something where knowing how your brain works, right? Regardless of whether you are neurodivergent, you're neurotypical, or you're just not diagnosed, doesn't matter as long as we can just make our day not suck, right?

And not be as stressful. So that is my hope for you.

 


[03:00] High Achievers, Perfectionism, and Pushing Through Burnout

So I wanna share a little bit about my story, um, and because I know there are many people that are probably have a similar story that may not... This wasn't even on my radar to think that I was neurodivergent. So I burnt out a couple times in practice and like many of us, right, we are, we tend to be type A perfectionists, high achieving.

And so when things are hard, we just push harder to get through it because it has always worked for us and we know not like, "Can I get this done?" But like, "How hard do I have to push to get it done?" That's usually our approach, right? That could have been our approach in undergrad. That could be our approach just in like, I'm tired today and I have five errands I have to go do, right?

We don't necessarily say, "I can't do it." We're like, "All right. How am I gonna get this done?" So burning out many times. I had started going to therapy probably every other week for over seven years. Okay? And so this is what I wanna share is the person that diagnosed it or brought it up was myself to my therapist/mental health practitioner.

 


[04:45] Discovering ADHD After Decades of Not Knowing

So it is grossly under-diagnosed in women and I'll go into a little bit about that, too. But essentially, what I want you to know is that even if no one has said, "Oh, you might have it," or, "No, you don't have it," right? You know yourself best. And I sadly was scrolling through TikTok one day. It was actually probably about this time, so October of last year, and, um, I'm like, "Whoa.

Wait. That's ADHD?" It, it was just like a, a s- a reel that came up, and I'm like, "That's not what I thought ADHD was." I'm like, "That I think I have. That sounds pretty familiar." And then of course the algorithm does its thing, and I start to see more and, and I tell my boyfriend. I'm like, "I think I have ADHD," and he was like, "Okay."

Um, he was like you know, like, "Okay, sure." But I'm like, "No, no, no, really." So then I went down ... That should've been my confirmation because then I went down the whole rabbit hole, and I could like literally knew I felt like so much more about ADHD than probably the average person. But I didn't know that a week ago, right?

So essentially, I started to connect the dots 'cause I've always said ... Now, this is before I was diagnosed. This was like when I started coaching three years ago. I'm like, we can change jobs. We can change careers, but essentially if we are not changing or upgrading or looking at the patterns and how we process stress, then we'll just recreate the same scenario.

It doesn't necessarily always matter our external environment." And so what's funny is I absolutely still believe that, but it is even more true now because of being neurodivergent. If I didn't learn how my brain functions, I would have just recreated the same thing over and over again, and it's just, it's the same thing for everyone, whether you're neurotypical, but I think especially being neurodivergent.

 


[06:40] Getting an ADHD Diagnosis and Understanding Genetics

So- I went to my mental health nurse practitioner, and I was like, on, I'm on meds. I go there I think like four times a year, like every three months is like what their protocol is being on, I think I'm on like Wellbutrin at the time. And I offhandedly mention to her in my 30-minute appointment, "I, I think I have ADHD."

And she, we didn't spend more than 90 seconds on it. She was like, "Okay." She's like, "Well, go get diagnosed." Okay. Thankfully there was a place, and I know this is not always the case for everyone, but there was a place that wasn't that far that they could get me in, and I... I pay through the ass for health insurance being self-employed, so thankfully my health insurance covered that.

And they got me in like within a few weeks, did the test, and they're like, "Yep, for sure you have ADHD." So when I went back to my mental health nurse practitioner, she's like, Or actually no, before I actually went and had the test, I was like, "You know, my, my mom has it." I'd never really put two and two together.

And I was like, "Is it hereditary?" And she thought for a second. She's like, "No. No, 'cause we see a lot of kids with it, and their parents don't have it." Let me tell you, it is very hereditary, and th- this is like a simple Google search could tell you that. Yeah, she is right. Maybe children get diagnosed, the parents quote-unquote "don't have it," but that doesn't mean they don't have it.

They're just not diagnosed. And what they're seeing, this is with autism as well and ADHD, is that the kids get diagnosed and the parents are like, "I don't think there's anything wrong with them. That's how I am." And then the psychologist or psychiatrist or whomever is doing the testing is like you should get tested."

So that is what is happening, because once I learned this about myself, I don't have human children, but talking to people that do, that is how they got diagnosed. So I was a little perturbed that my nurse practitioner, that her sole focus is mental health, right? That is the clinic she works in. That's all she does.

It's not, it's not, she's not a general practitioner. I couldn't go there and, get a physical exam. That's so to not know that piece of information, I was like, geez, okay.

 


[08:55] Discovering Autism After My ADHD Diagnosis

So I get my diagnosis, and then again, down the TikTok rabbit hole I am now doing a little more research and finding, I'm like, "I think I'm autistic as well," which is hilarious in hindsight because my boyfriend and I had watched a couple episodes of Love on the Spectrum, and I'm like, "I really like the show."

I just, I thought like they're just so honest and pure and right, but it's also, it was a little bit of an anomaly, like watching people kinda navigate the world in a way that was, like, very divergent, if you will, from maybe the general public. And never in a million years thinking that I was also autistic.

I think it's, um, I don't know if it's a level. It used to be called Asperger's, but they've changed it, so it's like autism level one. So you're essentially, quote-unquote, high-functioning, but you could argue that the people that are high-functioning, like myself, it takes a lot more mental bandwidth than someone that maybe is, like, a level three, which I think that's probably more what you're gonna see, like, in the Netflix show, Love on the Spectrum, because it seems very obvious.

So not to say that they don't require any more support, but it can be very challenging to ask for support if you have level one and people are like, "I don't see if you have a problem with that." You know, like, "You seem fine." And when I talked to my nurse practitioner again, she was like, "All right..." Or even my psychologist that did the diagnosis for the ADHD, she's like, "All right, well, like, let's, work with this for a couple months and, like, let's see."

And I'm like, after, like, a couple weeks, I'm like, "Can we just book this appointment? Because I know I have autism." And she was like, "Okay. Sure, shit. Yep."

 


[10:40] Why ADHD and Autism Are Often Missed in Women

Okay. So lesson number one, e- even if you... And, and I know sometimes people will go to therapists and maybe they don't do, um, maybe they don't give you the actual test, but they're like, "Oh, you're not X, Y, and Z," get a second opinion if that is important to you because I've seen where that can be wrong.

My therapist that I had previously that I had gone to every other week for seven years, s- over seven years, I remember her at one point joking, which is actually slightly insane, that she's like, "Oh, no, no, no. I don't, I don't work with autistic people." She's like, "I do really well with people that have anxiety, but, and that's like my forte, but I don't work with people that are autistic.

They just don't get me." I worked with her for seven years, and we had a great working relationship, so it just goes to show, like, I was probably masking so much and/or she didn't truly understand the nuances of neurodivergence. But that just goes to show you that, again, you know yourself well.

Also, you can go down a rabbit hole, but ADHD and autism, any sort of neurodivergence those are gonna be, like, the mainly, mainly the ones I talk about. Those are grossly under-diagnosed in girls and women, and we are seeing a lot of women get diagnosed at, as adults. And that's why people are like, "Oh, ev- everyone's got a little ADHD."

No, no, they've done studies, and if you took, like, an average group of people that were not neurodivergent, and "Oh, I forgot stuff," or, "Oh, I'm like, feel like I'm, like, squirrel brain," whatever. No, statistically they did find that, like, yeah, maybe those people experience situations like that, but it was, like, less than 2%.

Whereas the people that were diagnosed as neurodivergent, specifically ADHD, the percentage of experiencing those different scenarios that they used in the study was, like, 80%. Like, it- it's not ... And it's, again, just because you look like you're functioning well from the outside, that doesn't mean that it doesn't take a lot of mental bandwidth and focus to get through.

And so that's what I want you to realize is just because you're doing it, doesn't mean it doesn't cost a lot.

 


[13:10] ADHD, Perimenopause, and Changes in Mental Function

So a little side note on that was Another thing, I have a, you guys are gonna learn so much about me, OBGYN, right? I go every year, and I'm in my early 40s. The last couple years I've said to her, like, "I don't know, I don't know anything about menopause.

Like, am I supposed to know something?" And she's, and I get it, like we all have this like blanket statement that we say. And she's like average age of menopause is 50, give or take five years. So when you turn 45, we'll check your hormones." Okay, she's told me that the last almost three years.

If you're neurodivergent, and I think it's specifically ADHD, you are more likely to go into perimenopause almost a decade earlier. So if, give or take, you're 45, a decade earlier is 35, and holy fucking shit, because You, if you, if I didn't know that, right, I honestly would have thought I was losing my mind.

So what happened, and a- again, I have to do, I keep telling you guys, I'm gonna do an episode on I'm in Florida housing situation. I had damage from a hurricane, and it literally upturned my entire life, my living situation, and it was like a, almost a two-year ordeal. So there was a lot of stress and a lot of changes with that.

But also, I was going through perimenopause, and at the beginning of that, did not know. So what happens is ADHD is a, typically there's less, I can't remember if it's dopamine receptors or just dopamine in general, but dopamine and norepinephrine are affected with people with ADHD. Our estrogen plays a role in dopamine.

 


[15:00] How Perimenopause Can Intensify ADHD Symptoms

 

So our estrogen acts as a protector in a way, and so what happens is when we go through perimenopause, our estrogen fluctuates, and it also fluctuates with our, like, ability to cope and deal. It can affect you even if you're not in perimenopause and just going through your monthly cycle, if you're someone that gets a cycle.

So just recognize that, okay? We don't give ourselves enough credit. And then add in, yes, if you're neurodivergent on top of that. So what happens is that then you go through perimenopause. I literally, I thought I had dementia, and a lot of women say this. I couldn't remember anything. I would forget w- I still, honestly, God bless you if you're listening to this podcast still, because you can tell in my previous episodes, like, it, it would take a lot of mental bandwidth to remember words, and I still forget words mid-sentence as I'm talking.

My whole train of thought went out the window, although it is getting better. But I was never like that to that degree, and it just felt like I was always forgetting stuff. I was always dropping shit, which your proprioception for those with ADHD is off a little bit. Like, I always had bruises on my legs and my arms, and I, I wouldn't even know where the bruise came from.

So all of this just got exponentially worse, but I attributed it to my housing situation, that I was going through a lot of stress. I had mold, black mold in my house. I got sick. My pets got sick. Black mold, mold in general, I, I was like a fucking Petri dish on my whatchamacallit? See? I can't remember anything.

On my mold test, my personal mold test, like my house, but also me. So that is, like, a neurotoxin, so I l- all those things are happening at the same time, plus the perimenopause. I l- I couldn't remember things. I was like, it was awful. So And all that to say it greatly can come at this period of your life when you were, like, doing well, coping, no problem and now you're like, "What is going on?"

 


[17:00] Why ADHD Often Goes Undiagnosed in Girls and Women

So When we think of ADHD, so that stands for adult or excuse me, attention deficit hyperactivity disorder, which couldn't be a worse name. So we always think of, like, hyperactive young boys with this. What is happening that we're now realizing is that girls are hyperactive, but it's in their brain. So overactive brain, thinking, trying to, like, navigate the world, and we're not running around hyperactive.

I was never like that as a kid. But our brain is hyperactive, but we typically don't verbalize that necessarily. So that is why a lot of girls are getting missed missed as far as getting diagnosed in childhood. And I have to chuckle a little bit because now that it's becoming more obvious, we do see...

Like, I'll see someone be like, "Yeah, I was late diagnosed ADHD at 28." I'm like, "28? That would've been helpful." I was 42 when I was diagnosed, and I know some women in their 50s and 60s, and even 70s getting diagnosed. So I, like, you know, looking back, undergrad, vet school, what the hell? I knew that especially vet school would be hard, but now I'm like, my gosh, my, my poor...

Like, giving myself credit of it was ha- so much harder when I didn't know that I had ADHD. So I, I never... It never crossed my mind. I just figured, hey, it's vet school. It's hard. Everyone says it's hard, so this is hard. But it was exponentially harder just to, kinda get my brain straight essentially.

 


[18:45] ADHD, Executive Functioning, and the Stress Response

So autism side of the coin is, that's why they say this is a spectrum, and some people say, oh, it's like ADHD is one side of the spectrum where your difficulty with attention it, you know, your prefrontal cortex, I think they even did a study that there was, like, a smaller prefrontal cortex in those people with ADHD.

Not so much that, like, you could diagnose that on MR, but in enough if you were looking for it, you could see that, yes, statistically over time it was, it was smaller. Your prefrontal cortex, if, I've said this on many episodes, but that is the part of your brain that's responsible for your executive functioning.

So attention, regulation, your working memory, emotional regulation, motivation, reward, critical thinking. So think about that is the same part of your brain that I've spoke with s- spoken? Spoken about? Talked previously on another episode that when we are in fight or flight, our prefrontal cortex is less available to us.

It kinda goes offline, and our amygdala, that fight or flight part of our brain, goes into overdrive. If you have ADHD and your ability to access your prefrontal cortex and all the amazing things it does is less available to you, and then add in the stress of maybe a career in veterinary medicine, your job, all the other stressors in life, and you're more in fight or flight, now you even have less ability to access the prefrontal cortex.

So but emotional regulation is a huge part of that, and not everyone talks about that. So just kind of keep that in mind.

 


[20:30] Autism, Sensory Processing, and Childhood Signs

But yes, the autism, some people say, "Oh, it's the other end of the spectrum," where it's like we... Really essentially autism is, there is some differences in neurotransmitters, but it's not specifically dopamine and norepinephrine.

I think there's a little bit of something with GABA. But it's more on like the sensory processing your social cues, and it, I think, will look a lot different in everyone. And some people, again, will say ADHD is like one side of the spectrum, autism is the other. It's not really, 'cause once you start to learn about it, it, you can see how it shows up.

There's a lot of nuance in, from one person to another. So w- what I looking back, I was like, "Oh, I was definitely autistic." I remember being like, I don't know, five, six, seven years of age, wearing like sneakers, and I didn't like the seam on my socks, to the point that I would like tug like right where the tongue of your sneakers were, like that area of your sock.

I would always pull on that because then it made my sock tighter so I couldn't, didn't feel the seam of the sock like moving around. Okay, really. God bless my parents, but like that wasn't normal. I didn't wear like jeans, as in like denim pants, until I was almost in high school 'cause I didn't like the feel of them.

 


[22:00] Misophonia and Sensory Overload

I also still to this day, and I, a lot of people, this isn't specifically a neurodivergent thing, but misphonia, I can never pron- pronounce that right, miso- misophonia, is essentially when you can hear someone like chewing sends me into a rage. And my family used to, like, ma- kinda make fun of me of like, "Oh, sorry, I was chewing loud."

And I'm like, "Okay guess what? Now when you go into perimenopause, because you're more affected, y- it's so much worse. So much worse. And I think it's bad even if you're neurotypical, just in general. So from what I understand, that literally triggers the part of your brain that is fight or flight.

That's why, you know, explaining this to someone, maybe even explaining it to a, a man, they would be like, "Dude, I'm just chewing." And you're like you don't think that I would want to not be triggered by this? You think I'm making this up? I got a lot more pressing things to do in my day than worry if I can hear your fucking chewing, but guess what?

It sends me into a rage." So anyway So, all right. We're gonna go through these scenarios, but I just wanted to take you down that little rabbit hole because I think a lot of you will probably identify with some of this.

 


[23:15] Scenario 1: Morning Interruptions and the Need for Routine

Okay, first scenario. This used to drive me crazy. I, especially, again, just think of like the scenario but then times 10 because you're stressed and you're overwhelmed and you're burnt out.

Walking into work, saying hi to everyone, which always felt like a lot. I was just like I didn't... I wasn't miserable in the sense of like being a bitch, but I was like, "Can you just like not talk to me?" I was always like that as a kid. Like, get up in the morning, why are you trying to have a full-blown conversation with me?

So going from my car, it's nice, it's quiet, it's my controlled environment. I get out, I walk into work, "Hey, good morning. Good morning. Hey, how's it going?" I'm just like, "Ugh." It's like nails on a chalkboard. So that was tough. But to make it more challenging was when I would walk in, I know many of you have experienced this, you've got your bag, maybe you've got your coffee, your water bottle, your other bag, your lunch, and someone's like, "Hey, Dr.

Parks, so so-and-so called." Immediate rage internally. Can you just wait till I put my shit down? So again, it gets ex- exacerbated when I was burnt out and inc- incredibly stressed. But do you think I ever said that to someone? Like, "Hey, can you not, just tackle me when I get in the door?" Nope, sure didn't.

Probably 'cause I didn't wanna make any sort of conflict. But anyway, so a lot of like the autistic aspect for me is like my need to be organized. Like, every time I would go into my general practitioner job as an associate, we always went through each appointment every day that was on the schedule.

And especially if it was like recheck ears, and maybe the other doctor saw it the first time, and now I'm looking, seeing it for the recheck. So I'd go through, you know, what were the cytology results? What meds did we do? And then we, I would put like shorthand notes, we all did this, which was great, 'cause then by the time the appointment comes in, maybe it's your fifth appointment of the day, the day is crazy, but you already looked and you already saw, so you're already up to speed with that.

But we would do that before the day would start. However, if I'm just walking in the door, I gotta put my stuff down. Now I have to go through all the appointments, and I, I... You could get pretty quick at it. It might take you less than 10 minutes, right? You're just looking for like a few things, not super specific.

And then I would write down my list of like, "Okay, who do I have to call back today?" So that was my thing. If I couldn't do that before, like, I got pushed into my day, I was all disheveled and out of sorts, and I hated that feeling of like, "Ugh, I don't know 'cause I don't know what appointment's coming in, and now this is gonna come in.

I haven't looked." Or do I have two follow-ups or do I have eight follow-ups? Like, am I gonna be staying here after we close? So like, not being able to do my, my pattern, right, like my flow, was challenging for me. And that was also something too where it can be challenging for that executive function part of this, so I'm gonna tie in with these scenarios a little bit of the neuroscience.

But the executive functioning difference is, you know, having that predictability, that roadmap, it was less mental energy because I was like, "Okay, we do this thing and then we do this other thing." But when someone's like, "No, no, no, we gotta do step two before step one," now that just takes a lot more mental bandwidth, and I think there's, part of that that really ramped up my anxiety too.

 


[26:45] Setting Boundaries to Reduce Morning Stress

So what's a solution for that? There's a way to do this, number one, not jumping down your poor receptionist or staff's throat which sometimes that's what ends up happening, right? 'Cause we just get so pissed. But having a conversation of like, "Hey, when I get in in the morning," unless it's an emergency, right?

There's an animal, there's a cat back in treatment that can't breathe. Okay, different story. But I need those first like 10 minutes to get everything squared away. Unless it's an emergency, you gotta give me those 10 minutes. And what used to also drive me crazy is I would have... A- and I loved like the staff that I worked with, but I'm now still trying to do my, follow-up list, write everything down, and they walk in the doctor's office and they're like, "So my dog last night this and that," and I'm like, "Oh, my fucking God, you gotta wait.

We're working all day together. Your dog's stable at home. I gotta get my shit squared away before we like dive into that." So having a conversation, "Hey, I need like the first 10 minutes or up until this time when I walk in. I'm not trying to be rude, I just... It makes my day go better, and it will be more beneficial for everyone else too."

So there's ways to have that conversation. So that is scenario number one.

 


[28:00] Scenario 2: Constant Interruptions and Task Switching in Vet Med

Second scenario, which I did a episode on this probably a couple months ago, but... Actually, not even that, I think it was in August. Every question or interruption is some other form of task, T-A-S-K, task switching. So you've got a full day of appointments, you're bebopping back and forth, and then your poor receptionist, I say poor because they're probably like, "Can you just be nice to me?"

Is like, "Hey, so-and-so's on the phone. They got a question." And you're like, "Oh, God, I, I don't remember that case. It was from last week. Let me... Hold on, let me pull the record up." Your receptionist is staring at you. The client's waiting on the phone. You're trying to do this. Your next appointment's here, right?

And then your tech's like, "Hey, w- I have to discharge this client. Like, what meds did you want to do?" So what we don't realize is that task switching really does tax our brain and our cognitive ability and bandwidth. So we have to, like, disengage from what we're doing, and then we have to look at this other task, get some information.

Okay, gave your receptionist the answer, great. Now, going back, you're like, "Wait a minute, what was I doing? Oh, meds. Okay, yeah. Oh, I was looking up what meds we did last time," right? Like, that back and forth is not fucking efficient. And all of these scenarios, I would say today, I would argue every hospital should do some form of this if this works for the doctors and staff, because I would argue this is so much more efficient, even if you're neurotypical.

Again, if it's not an emergency Interrupting your doctor every 20 minutes about something, it's gonna slow the workflow down. This is what exhausts us because we feel like we're getting this push and pull in every direction.

 

[30:00] Reducing Task Switching With Better Veterinary Team Workflows

So that, you know, and, and our poor support team, right? My client service representative, she's just trying to ask a question.

On her mind, her goal is to get an answer, tell the client, and be off the phone. That's her focus. Her focus isn't like, "Oh, Dr. Parks has undiagnosed ADHD," and it's gonna be a lot of task-switching for her, right? Like, that's ... I don't expect her to have known that, right? Or, like, this could be a lot for her.

I'm, I have this thing in front of me and I have to get it done. So don't assume that they're gonna know this. This is having, like, a sit-down conversation of like, "Hey, this is the flow. This is how we're gonna do this in this hospital from now on." And it, you know, start with maybe management of like, how can we roll this out?

And having a designated time for those questions, because what's really cool is when they're like, "All right, 15 minutes, you got those questions?" They come to you bam, bam, they get all their questions answered, clients get calls back, life is good, right? It's kind of like think of it of, and I know some people do this, this would, uh, drive me crazy, but say you're gonna, like, see an appointment and then go do a surgery, see another appointment, then go do a dental, see two appointments and do a cat spay, right?

Like, you're just going back and forth. That is not efficient. Even if, again, can you do it? Yeah. No shit, I did it for a decade and a half. But should you do it? Is it efficient? Like, this is what we need to know about our brain to work with it instead of against it.

 


[31:30] Scenario 3: How Unclear Questions Create Mental Overload

Okay, scenario number three. I, th- I feel like, um, I joke that I'm getting more autistic the older I get because now I'm so aware of it, but the nuances in simple questions.

So going back to my poor receptionist, th- this example just came to me. I, honestly, this happened so much I don't even have an example, but this is what came to my mind. So they would come, ask me a question. Now keep in mind they're still, this was still done, like, in between appointments, right?

So not only are we task-switching, now they're gonna say, "Hey," um, and this is the example I came up with.

"Hey, um, Mr. Smith's on the phone. They've got Fluffy, the Addisonian. He vomited once. They're going out of town, and they didn't have to increase the meds before, the prednisone. And so they're gonna go out of town now, but he vomited." That's what I get, and I'm like So first things first, and I've said this, I still say this, communication maybe is like it irritates me if something isn't clear, which is hilarious 'cause I'm sure at times I'm very much not clear.

But I have said, "Okay, so they're telling me that, like, you're giving me this information." I'm like, "Is that a question or a statement? Are you asking me a question or is that a statement?" And they're like, "A question." I'm like, "Okay." So they wanna know if they should give the meds this time even though last time they went out of town, didn't increase the pred, and the dog was fine.

Yeah. Okay. So number one, clarity, right? In their mind, they're skipping a couple steps and it's making sense. In my mind, being neurodivergent, I'm seeing all the fucking nuance to that. And I, I don't think this is, you know, all these examples are not super specific necessarily to neurodivergent, but I do see all these a lot in neurodivergent individuals.

But what goes through my mind with this is, like internally, there's like a, a battle of like, "Okay, when did we last check electrolytes? But then he vomited, so maybe the potassium is actually lower, but normally it's higher. But then they're gonna go out of town, he's gonna be stressed, so his cortisol... he doesn't have any fucking cortisol.

Okay, so the pred, but they didn't increase it last time, so now..." Like, all of that is going through my mind before I can give an answer. And then, "Okay, when's the last time they had blood work done? And then what were the electrolytes? When's the last time we gave a Percorten injection?" Right? Like, all of those scenarios are what goes through my head, so I am like a deer in headlights sometimes because number one, I don't even know if you asked me a question or you're telling me something.

Number two, I'm not really sure how to answer because that whole train of thought just went through my brain. So then I'm like paralyzed because all of that's going on, and then maybe the phone's ringing. My technician's like, "Hello, Dr. Parks, we gotta finish up this other room." My other tech's like, "Uh, Dr.

Parks, I have another room here for you." And you're like, "Fuck!" And you wanna yell and scream and run out the door.

 


[34:30] Training Your Veterinary Team to Communicate Clearly

So again, this is why having those set times for callback questions to the doctor are, I think, hugely important. The other thing that, uh, the practice that I worked at was really good at was we got very good at, and this is a training thing, but training your support team members to ask specific questions or come to you with specific information.

I cannot stress to you enough how amazing this is. So for example, it's a little bit different than what I just said for that scenario, but my boss, best thing we could've ever done, we got really good at the training, and obviously there's a transition period. But when a technician would come to us with like, "Oh, I have Sammy here for, check teeth I'm like, again, all the nuance goes to my brain.

Check teeth, like he has bad breath, he's chewing weird. Is he two years old? Is he 12? Does he have a heart murmur, right? So we trained our staff to, like if you're coming to us with a... I mean, technically you could say this for your front desk staff too, although I think this is a, it's a lot. But having your technicians, they, we train them to come to us like, "Hey, I have Sammy, a two-year-old Brussels neutered male, Brussels Griffin, Brussels Griffon, neutered male, ch- for check teeth.

The owner's noticing an odor, says he's eating dr..." Right? Like that tells me so much more. So that, again, efficiency, streamlining, better workflow. It helps me not have to bend my brain all in different directions, because my brain just went in 87 different directions trying to... Sorry, that was my dog shaking.

Wrap my mind around what I was going to be encountering, right? So that makes it, this is just communication, b- and it makes it a lot easier. But you can also, in my scenario I gave, have your support team members, like just say, "Hey, you know, you can tell me whatever story it is, but then you just have to tell me, 'Their question is...'

Or, "The owner's question is..." Or, "My question is..." My, personally, my business coach, she, and this is a great thing, we do voice and text messaging in addition to like our sessions, and her thing that she tells everyone is like, you can vent if you're frustrated or share a win, something exciting."

She's like, "But if you have a question you just have to tell me. 'Hey, my question is this.'" Because she's like, "I would get messages that are five minutes long about this thing, and then I'm like, 'Wait a minute. Do you have a question, or are you just trying to tell me this thing?'" I'm like, "Oh, so good."

So it's something simple like that, right? And you don't have to be in management and recreate the wheel, but you wanna pick the environment that you have that conversation in, because if it's chaotic, the phone's ringing, they've gotta go grab the phone, you've got three appointments there, and you being like, "Hey, you know what? You, next time you need to tell me if there's a specific question." Like, "Okay, no, we need to do this a, a different way."

So just know your, your surroundings, right? Read the room.

 


[37:45] Scenario 4: Why Last-Minute Schedule Changes Trigger Frustration

Okay. Two more scenarios. Uh, number four, schedule changes. OMFG, this used to drive me bonkers. I would look at the schedule, like I said, if I got to my desk in the morning, I'm having a good morning, I'm writing down all my notes for my appointments, and then I know my callbacks, and I'm like, "All right.

Great." You know, those cases that are on the schedule, either maybe the owner's a little high maintenance, or the patient is difficult to deal with, or the case is a fucking clusterfuck, and you're just, like, dreading it. So I would have, like, this mental capacity of what I was gonna deal with that day.

Maybe then I would see an appoint... That, that really tough one that I was dreading canceled. Oh my God, I could do a fucking cartwheel. I'd be like, "Oh," internally so excited, right? And then, and maybe that was, like, a check eye, but the owner is a lot or something. And then I look, and that canceled, but then they put a 12-year-old new patient vomiting dog in.

I'm like, "Motherfucker, give me that check eye," right? So when there's changes to the schedule, it's because... And why that affects us is because our cognitive flexibility, it's the transitions, right? And I think, too, for myself, I only had so much bandwidth in being burnt out that, like, I subconsciously had planned out, "All right, that...

This looks doable," right? It might be a little tough at 2:00 PM with that crazy client or that crazy dog, but then I'll be good. And now, that 2:00 canceled and something else that's probably gonna take the rest of the afternoon got put in there. It would send me over the edge. So it's a lot of to... a lot of times to the f- the unknown, right?

We don't know how much energy this is gonna be. 12-year-old vomiting dog, maybe they came in, they're new to the area. They're like, "Oh, we always give it some Sucralfate and he's fine, and he's eating, drinking. He's had blood work last month," right? That's gonna be different than the 12-year-old lab that hasn't been to the vet in three years, and he's not eating great, and he's lost 10 pounds.

Those are gonna take different bandwidths and your mental energy. And so that, that would, like, send me over the edge.

 


[39:55] Managing Schedule Changes and Reducing Worst-Case Thinking

So what's a solution for that? That's a tough one. Um, I'll be honest. So number one is i- scheduling in general, right? So making sure that there is enough holes, if you will, in your day that there can't just be people like, "Oh, I have a full schedule," and then we're just tacking on walk-ins and everything else that comes in, right?

I know that's not always feasible for everyone. Or, and there's ways to go about changing that, which I think is so fucking obvious. It drives me crazy that people don't do that. But the other thing is, you know, just, um, having some parameters around the scheduling. So if there's maybe two doctors, and they're always booking shit on your side, and the other doctor has it's just they've got three openings, and you're double booked, like, why is that happening, right?

Having that conversation is... needs to happen, for sure. But also, give yourself permission that what can start... Like, when we start to get that anxiety like, "Oh my God, 12 years old, new client, what the fuck?" Give yourself permission to be like it may not be that bad. It could be, but it also may not be.

So if we're going to worst-case scenario, we also have to tell ourselves the opposite. So it could be a fucking clusterfuck, or... Sorry, I'm dropping the F-bomb a lot today, but I'm very heated about this, this whole neurodivergence. But yes, it could be crazy, but it also could be very straightforward.

So giving yourself, like, if I'm gonna think worst case, I have to think what also best case could be. And we start to just take lessen the edge a little bit of that. But also recognize that you're not trying to... You're not a bad person, if you're feeling that way. We're just honoring who we are too.

So that's, like, in the short term, but long term, hopefully, there's a, a different way to strategize the scheduling. There's a, there's a lot of nuance to that too, which it could take 10 episodes. I don't even think we would cover.

 


[41:50] Scenario 5: Perfectionism, Follow-Up Tasks, and Mental Load

Okay, last one. So I said at the beginning of the day, I would write down just some notes about the cases that I was seeing, and then the follow, follow-up calls.

And then we used AvaMark at this one particular hospital, so the way we had it set up is if someone came in for an office appointment, it automatically put in a follow-up the next day that our receptionist would do. But every certain thing would prompt a follow-up, so they could have An exam, a kennel cough vaccine, a pending blood work, like there would be three follow-ups.

So like some of those probably needed to be deleted or moved out, right? Like, "Oh, no, the doctor's gonna call him in a few days with the blood results," or it also had an ear cytology. We don't need to... You know, we're gonna need to not call him in two days. Maybe we need to call him in a few more days. So I had to like change that, and, and my technicians were good about it.

The problem was I was so hyper-focused on making sure that I did that myself that I was like, "Ugh, if I don't do it, no one else is gonna do it. They're not gonna do it right." So at the end of the day, I would go through each appointment and be like, "All right, we need to move the date of this, move it back, you know, make sure everything made sense, make sure everyone's getting a call the next day, et cetera," which is great for business, right?

I'm sure I was a great employee as far as that goes, but it was a lot of mental b- gym- gymnastics essentially that I had to go through. And what happens is like that to me in my brain, there was like an open loop. So it's also with that pattern, right? We wanna like continue the pattern, and it's not closed, and I...

If I just went home and then I got to work the next day and I just started my day, now I feel like all those follow-ups could be all screwed up. They're not on the right day. The owners aren't gonna get called, or they're gonna get called twice in one day. Like those are the things that it sounds little, but it adds up with your mental capacity.

 


[43:55] Creating Predictable Systems and Delegating Tasks

So a lot of times too, what I didn't realize was that with ADHD, sometimes we feel like we have squirrel brain, and if we had a flow and a pattern, it was a lot easier to just keep doing that. Because if we didn't do that, then there were a lot of variables, and we're less likely to... We're more likely to miss something because the flow was off, right?

Like we didn't... There wasn't that pattern. We weren't doing things as we normally would. So if we do something different, we're more likely to forget or not have it on our radar, right? Which is which is challenging. So the, the solution with... in that particular case is to really get good with your support team members.

And I will say, too, the receptionists were pretty decent. They would see like, "Oh, there's two follow-ups for tomorrow. Obviously, we're not calling twice in one day." They would delete one. But it's also... Like you have to train them that way. You have to have that conversation that way. You have to give them agency to be able to do that, too.

So that's more of your long-term solution in how to do that

 


[45:00] Understanding Neurodivergence and Working With Your Brain

So, um, all right. That was a lot. That was a juicy episode. So this is gonna be a miniseries. This is episode one. In the next couple of episodes, I do wanna break down, um, some more scenarios and how they showed up, so things like sounds and dealing with clients and emotions and just not feeling like I'm a people person, right?

And, and how to deal with that. So we're gonna break down what that looks like as far as neurodivergent and how to work through that as well. So I hope you guys enjoyed this, and at the very least, if this is getting your wheels turning of, "Whoa, this sounds real familiar," I, honor to you, just get curious.

And again, not everyone needs to be diagnosed. I think it's up to you. It's a personal preference. If you're identifying with a lot of this, you start doing some research, and you start being like, "Oh, 100%, this is me," then great. Welcome. Welcome. I also think that, and I'm gonna talk about this in some of the upcoming episodes, but being neurodivergent is also, like, the secret sauce, I think, for why many of us do so well in veterinary medicine.

We're really good in crisis situations, but maybe it's really hard to send an email or make a follow-up call to an owner, right? So it's little things like that. So just the awareness piece. We just need to be aware and work within how our brain works best instead of trying to fight it.

 


[46:25] Final Thoughts and What's Coming Next in the Series

So I'm really curious, though.

I wanna know your feedback, what your thoughts were on this, if this is, "Okay, I need to maybe start considering this." I've been doing a lot more posts on social media about being neurodivergent in vet med, so make sure you check that out. Follow me on Instagram at Dr., for doctor, period, Amber Parks, A-M-B-E-R P-A-R-K-S.

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